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How to Learn from Regrets

Life is full of regrets. Unanalyzed and unmanaged, any variety of regret can be poison for your well-being. The trick is to acknowledge it and use it for learning and improvement. Regret’s benefits don’t come to us by chance.   1． Here are three steps you can take the next time you find yourself reflecting on your past missteps.

Kill the ghost (鬼)

People often say their regrets “haunt”them. This suggests that regret is like a ghost: not entirely clear but always threatening. 2． Write down why each one still bothers you and its bad effects. You will find that a list is a lot less frightening than a ghost.

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After you make a mistake, life moves on. But sometimes you just can’t stop kicking yourself. In other words, you have voluntarily chosen a life punishment for a poor decision you made in the past. Now is the time to relieve your emotional punishment with a simple verbal declaration: “ 4． ”

Collect your diploma

Regret is like a school run by human nature. If you never experienced regret you would keep repeating the same behaviors that led you to miss opportunities and destroy relationships in the past. 5． In your list of regrets, note how you want to change your behavior and outline your resolutions. Next, list all the ways that you can invest in your own skills and improvement right now-and get started.