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Whether shyness is part of your child’s personality or just something they feel when they are in front of a group of strangers, it is a typical experience. “Shyness isn’t always as socially valued as more outgoing personalities. However, we should step back and think about different personalities and their unique advantages,” said Pérez-Edgar, professor of psychology (心理学) at The Pennsylvania State University. “Everyone can feel shy at times. And those who are especially shy often have happy social lives --they just aren’t likely to be the liveliest person in a crowded room.”

       But there are things to watch out for. If your children are avoiding situations that are important or could be enjoyable for them because they’re feeling nervous, it might be time to take action, said Chiappini, a child expert. “That could mean not speaking in class, trouble making friends, or not joining in activities they like.” she said.
       Chiappini recommended first saying something like: “You seem a little nervous or unsure about who everyone is/what to say . We haven’t met them before and that can feel a little uncomfortable.” From there, you can encourage them to join someone or say something when they are ready ---with the promise that you will be there to support them, she added.
       The more we avoid situations where kids may feel shy, the more anxiety (担心) we will have about them in the future. But that doesn’t mean to push your child into the deep end.

“We may have to deal with the situation step by step. For example, you may have to encourage your child just to make eye contact during an outing before expecting them to ask someone a question,” Chiappini said.

1．What may Pérez - Edgar agree with?

A．Shyness is not as bad as people have thought.

B．Children are more likely to feel shy than adults.

C．Shy people like to stay with lively people.

D．It’s difficult for people to get over shyness.

2．When should action be taken to help shy kids?

A．When they ask for instructions from others.

B．When they feel nervous in school activities.

C．When they try hard to mix with other children.

D．When they are absent from important situations.

3．What does Chiappini advise parents to do at first?

A．Tell their kids what they should say.

B．Ask their kids how they are feeling.

C．Help their kids stay away from some situations.

D．Show their kids they understand how they feel.

4．What can we infer from the last two paragraph?

A．Parents should be strict with the shy children.

B．Parents should push the shy children to be outgoing.

C．Parents should be patiently guide the shy children.

D．Parents should encourage shy children to make eye contact with them.